Human Relationships

Recent (world wide) events have allowed me to observe human behavior in the raw. I’ve seen the correlation between events and peoples’ reactions to them. I’ve also seen very clearly that all is in relationship with each other. Relationships – that is a very loaded word. It holds so much information, good and bad, depending on anyone person’s experiences with other people. Personally, relationships and especially the romantic variety have been somewhat of a mystery to me. After many years of experiences and observations,  I’ve seen a common denominator in all human relationships and now, I feel that I may be hitting upon an underlying truth that could turn out to be just be one of those gems, a universal truth, a truth that holds true, whether one believes in it or not.

As I understand it, it’s all about energy currents. All of life in fact is about energy currents and how they are in relationship with each other. The universal law of attraction says that that which is like is drawn unto itself. This is a universal law. It is true for the smallest particles as well as the largest celestial bodies in our universe and probably in multiverses as well, although that is beyond my scope of personal experience. In the subject of human relationships, this law brings people together that have something in common, people who vibrate in a close enough frequency for the automatic attraction to happen. Love filled people will find other love filled people for example. Whatever we focus on is what we draw into our experience. I have experienced this consciously for years, and to me at least, it is true. I have seen it around me as well, and I think it actually is true for anyone.

So we meet – say it’s the romantic kind of relationship that we observe here. One person is drawn to another. The gender and orientation are a match (in whichever diverse expression matters not and ought not to be judged). Both look at each other and at the very least like what they see. Perhaps it’s instant love. Perhaps it takes a bit longer to yield to the magic of the source perspective. Yes, source perspective is what happens when we “fall in love” with another being. We observe that person through the eyes of source and source always loves unconditionally. So we love, and usually in the beginning at least, get a positive response back. (Let’s for a moment assume, that the experience of falling in love is mutual, shall we?) – Both people decide to embark on the path of romantic love and the relationship becomes conscious (it was always there, just nobody was aware of it before they met or agreed to allow love to flow.) In the ideal scenario, this blissful period (the honeymoon phase) lasts up to 2-3 years, sometimes even longer and I’ll get to that, but often just a few months before things become more difficult. Issues tend to show up. Things that didn’t bother either of the couple suddenly begin to matter and are being observed and most importantly verbally complained about. Soon enough, there are problems, quarrels, fights even and only one thing is clear, the honeymoon phase is over and, how it is often termed, “the real work begins”.

I have of course simplified things a bit here, but the standard development of a romantic relationship unfolds like that or similar. It depends on the awareness levels of the couple how they deal with their issues and what can be solved and agreed upon etc. So what happened to the honeymoon phase? To those romantic moments of bliss and connectedness? Are they forever lost? Does one have to just “get real”, come down to Earth and work through the stuff? Most professionals in the counseling field would probably see it that way.  I do not. I see a pattern that is most common in such a relationship scenario. I see that there was a current that brought both together, meaning, both people ran a current that was similar. Most often it was a current of not really loving themselves but wanting and being able to love another.

In the beginning, they gazed upon each other and bucked that current, perhaps simply because they were glad to have found a suitable mate. They bucked the current of their partner’s inability to love him or herself and loved him or her despite that forbidding current. It’s what source does – they did indeed look upon the partner through the eyes of source and achieved something incredibly difficult to maintain for a while.

The reason they could not maintain this bucking of that perpetual current of lack of self-love is simple. Human beings are not meant to buck each others’ currents forever, like source does. It’s near impossible unless one is in such perpetual alignment with source that source is who is acting through the human body (or in other words a living saint). Humans are actually meant to mirror each other, to reflect and act out what the currents of those around them are.  Now imagine! This couple – they bucked each other’s current of lack of self-love successfully for months, or even years. They shored up that lack for each other and the lack was not (always) felt. They filled the other’s heart with source love, which is nice, but it is also a classic scenario of co-dependence that has developed through this. The result is that one partner cannot live without the other’s love, and vice versa, for then one would fall back on the lack of self-love and that would hurt. So there’s a number of “co-ing” behaviors that develop around this pattern, just to uphold this energy pattern of co-dependency. This can become very stressful and draining over time. That’s because it is not how things are meant to be here in this human adventure. We are meant to show each other what currents are being offered to the world. (Yes, even the ugly bits).  It is a far greater act of love to show an unadultered current to a partner than to buck a current that is offered. Only by showing the true nature of an offered current, is the other able to see and grow through it to a greater point of awareness and ultimately independent self-love. The work that has to happen in this relationship scenario is one of training oneself into loving every little aspect of oneself and to integrate self-love. However, both partners would have to do that in order to remain attracted to each other, or the vibrations would be very different and the law that brings people together will seek other matches that are more harmonious.

Let’s assume for a moment that there is a couple who as individuals have found self-love and are offering that current to the world. Then let’s also assume that their interests and desires are a match and hence they meet. Their relationship will begin with a huge glow of the amplified energy of both hearts that join in love that is already flowing individually. Love that is not born from a sense of need, but from a sense of fulfillment within each of the partners individually. This kind of love can amplify and dance together with incredible intensity. Following the natural movement of love energy, only expansion is possible with this joining of open self-love filled hearts, as they share personal and source love in their relationship. What’s better still, neither of them has to buck the other’s current even for a moment, they can both reflect the self-love back to their partner and be in harmony with their human purpose of being a mirror for each other. Such love will last for a lifetime and beyond. It is effortless and all problems and issues that may arise will be solved through that focus of self-love and open hearts. There will be loads of fun moments, shared humor and perhaps long periods of silence, during which in mutual understanding, there is nothing to say, but only love to feel.

Some people meet in the first circumstances and through the bucking of the non-self-love current are inspired to find self love. Those are the ones where it may be blissful, then wobble but lead to a more aware form of self-love within each partner, thereby untangling the co-dependent nature of their relationship and the experience of such an untanglement will always be a sense of incredible relief and appreciation for each other to have been an invaluable catalyst in the growth journey.

Be it as it may – all scenarios (and there are definitely variations I have not mentioned here) are valid. None are better than the other. All are an experience worthy of having gone through. Ultimately, it all depends what an individual desires for their relationship(s). That sets the tone for the unfolding of the experience. Whether relationships are romantic in nature, or simply human interactions, one thing is certain. When we are independently free and self-sustaining with our need for love, we will as human race evolve into a more peaceful society, in which the basis for mirroring that which we have evolved into is love and not war.

This brings me back to the current worldwide events of war, terror, fear, and more. These are but a reflection of the currents we offer to the world and each other. Sure, there is potential for love and sure, many reports speak of this love for their next “neighbor”. However, does it not suggest to love the neighbor like we love ourselves? – that part gets forgotten too often in my opinion. True change in the world happens within, for when change comes in form of a changed current that we offer to the world, the reflection thereof will naturally be different – for that is how it works.

In short, if I want to experience love, I must love myself. If I want to experience peace, I must be at peace with myself. Humanity has been at war for a very long time and it did not stop with the end of WWII by the way. We humans are at war within our hearts. The perpetual focus and need to share what bothers us is still too strong. The focus on what is good is unpracticed as of yet, but more and more, I see people tired of complaining and pointing to the obvious negative. Instead of asking, “what would be the worst that could happen?”, which comes so easily to our minds, we can train ourselves to ask instead: “what would be the best that could happen?” – and to me, the best would be a world filled with peaceful, self-loving individuals that strive to learn, and evolve in the arts, science, and technologies for the sheer joy of evolving, which would eliminate any and all competition but support each other’s dreams to the full extent by simply being natural reflectors for each other. I may not live to see this kind of humanity in this body, but one day, I trust it will become reality.

 

 

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Full Acceptance of What Is

It is a step outside the perception of linearity to fully accept and appreciate the current experience of now. By gaining the perspective that this current now experience is as much a valid and perfect creation of your reality as any of your many experiences, you will be able to treasure it much easier and cherish it as much as the next one that will flow into your experience as your new manifestation. The current now deserves the honor, respect and recognition of being the birthplace of the new now and all subsequent nows.

 

(Original post: June 26, 2012)

About Failure

The emotional feedback of feeling like a failure, or that you have failed at something is a direct response to thoughts that are in contrast to how your inner being, your source point thinks of you or about the situation you have judged or assessed to be negative.

What we humans tend to determine to be a failure is often just a turning point in our lives; or the new point of departure for a journey into a different direction. By looking at our “failures” as just that, a point of clarification perhaps, or at the very least as just the point of departure for the journey to the next point, then we can ease up on experiencing our creations as failures. Instead, we can adopt the perspective that they are mere springboards for more exciting stuff. Nothing in life is a failure, for everything, even that which we deem very negative, is merely the type of contrast that brings about new desires and preferences, which our source point immediately and steadily holds in focus, waiting for the human part to catch up. What we experience as failures are in fact the birthplaces for so much more. In that light, nothing is ever a true failure and nothing is ever really done, as our experience keeps expanding, growing, and increasing in many more interesting points that give rise to more of creation and experiences and so forth.

To look at oneself, one’s life, or certain experiences therein as failures, indicates that there is a general distrust or disbelief in the positivity of Creation itself and although that only leads to negative emotional feedback, that too is of course allowed as a filter through which to experience one of life’s many flavors. The joy of it all lies in allowing even that which we call failure to be in our experience, in the full understanding that ultimately, everything is as it is created,  it is as it has been conjured up into our realities and therefore, by the sheer nature of its presence in our lives, it is good and cannot ever be a true failure.

A Path to Equality

(Equality: the state of being equal, esp. in status, rights, and opportunities.)

There is a video going around the net that emphasizes on strong women and encourages us (women) to be brave in 2014. Upon watching this video, I realized that it felt off to me. Being in a woman’s body myself, I had to wonder why such a video would feel off to me. It’s one-sided. It’s an opinion of a person or group, it’s beautifully compiled, and professionally crafted. All this is allowed of course and there shouldn’t be anything for me to find flawed, yet for me, this one-sided focus on women alone struck a chord within. Questions arose:

How can equality be reached between men and women, if we are still beating the drum of one by the exclusion of the other? How can we ever find that equilibrium if we keep emphasizing one over the other or even insinuating that one may have better attributes than the other or be more amazing?

The simple answer that stood out for me was:  “We cannot reach equality that way.”

It’s a wolf in sheeps clothing to view a video as beautiful and positively conceived as the one I’m talking about. It contains exclusion. I remember preschool and kindergarten days where my daughters were explicitly reminded to focus on inclusion of their peers. A simple lesson that actually comes naturally to the little ones, as they remember their true nature a bit better than we grown ups do.

I hear a big “but” … Yes, we do gravitate to something similar than that which we vibrate as. Yes, we prefer some things/people over others. That’s perfectly natural and should not be tampered with. Yet, in our hearts, our preference does not need to become the holy grail of choices! Let the choice be free, the attractions be natural, but allow for all components, male, female, regardless of skin, hair, eye color, sexual orientation etc etc – to be there on this planet of ours (for it is anyway!). The more choices we have available for our experiences, the greater the fun to let law of attraction sift through them and bring us in contact with exactly those folks who vibrate in our frequency. The precision of this is so uncanny, that any kind of prejudice becomes not even unnecessary, but is rather ridiculous.

Furthermore, in my personal experience, I have recall of many male incarnations of mine – good ones they were! So my own source energy stream has found it fitting to incarnate in both male and female bodies and I can only guess at the ratio, since there’s a fairly long string of lifetimes. Of course there too, law of attraction operates with its precision and brings on the body that fits the ideas and intentions for the lifetime. Of course, preference is still alive and well, but this preference needs to be standing alone and as sovereign as it actually is, for putting down one compared to the other or operating along the same energy stream in the opposite state of glorifying one over the other can only bring one experience – Division.

Division is the opposite state of who we really are and always feels bad to me. Let your emotional feedback decide what it means to you and then, as if you were back in kindergarten, perhaps the lesson of inclusion (allowing all to be part of the whole) makes sense again.

Are we Going Somewhere?

I’ve used the word “journey” quite a bit and even though I’ve traveled the globe wide and far on both hemispheres, that’s not what is meant with that word. The inner journey, that’s what I refer to as “The Journey”. It could also be called “The Journey of Ascension”. As I am going along on my own personal journey of (self)-discovery, I realize that I’m not going anywhere really. How can, what appeared to be a motion from point A to point B, now have lost this perception completely?

I believe that this is what I call a threshold, like a step into a plane of existence that is different from what it was before. I understand that the perception of “going from A to B” is one of the 3rd dimension. There’s time involved for sure and there is motion involved, leaving A behind and reaching B. This means that in my old view, I left things behind (let them go) and “gained” or achieved new experiences. Recently, my focus point for the perception of things has changed. Time has fallen away, it has dissolved in my inner make-up. By dwelling in the moment every moment and only occasionally being caught in the time line, my focus point has become the heart. This has caused my perception of “me” as well of everything around me to shift quite dramatically.

Looking back, I can see a common denominator in all my experiences. It’s the “me-factor”- I was always there, just in the right place, at the right time. No matter what the experience. If I place my consciousness in that anchor point of my own heart and look around me, the view has shifted from being linear to spiral, spiraling out from my own heart center. At the center, yes, that would still be “me”. This means that the spacial perception is still there, the linearity however has dropped away. From this vantage point, I realize that my journey was never one from A to B. That was the helpful illusion that kept me going until it was no longer necessary to uphold this illusion.

What is it then, this “journey”, if not from A to B? All I see now is the totality of the things I’ve seemingly let go of, as well as those things that have come into my life – I do see beyond the horizon of what has already manifested or been experienced, the potential of things (experiences etc) which can be attracted, should I so choose. It’s all there spiraling out from the centermost point of my heart. Nothing is lost, nothing has been gained – all of me just IS. What has changed, most definitely so, is my conscious recognition of who I am and what I am doing here. Most of all – I realize that all of what I see has always been here, in the moment. It’s not that all of a sudden, I’ve “become” something that I wasn’t before. It’s more that now I see clearer what I couldn’t see before.

This tells me that the actual journey is one of looking at the very same thing from different viewpoints. There isn’t any work to be done to “become” something. There aren’t any attempts to be made to be something I am not already. All that I will ever be is already there. What this journey has brought me are ever new ways to look at it and perceive my totality. I enjoy this current view, but I have a hunch that this won’t be the last point of view I’m going to have.

 

(Original Post: December 30, 2010)

 

Impatience

The feeling of impatience is nothing other than our emotional guidance that tells us that we have thought ourselves into a place of misalignment with source frequency. That much can be easily said, it can be quite easily corrected by thinking thoughts of general nature and by appreciating little things in life that are in our perception NOW.

Yet, what exactly does source communicate to me with this emotion? – In the basic understanding of my own patterning, my source conveys to me with this emotion not only the degree of misalignment I am in whilst feeling impatient, but also that I am in this instance distrusting of the universal forces that be. I am not only distrusting them to be exact and perfect, but I also have energy patterns that tell of “not having yet”, of “not being there yet” etc. These patterns are strong energy currents that delay the universe’s deliveries of my desires’ manifestations. As always, I find myself at the center of my creation, the creation or the lack thereof actually. It is always my own energy currents that are being displayed before me – it cannot be otherwise.

By contemplating this universal truth, my smile comes back to me and the alarm of “impatience” subsides. Certainty that all is well returns with full force and I can almost hear the energies of the universe rushing in (almost) unhindered, delivering manifestation after manifestation of the reflection of myself into my daily unfolding life, proving as always its magnificent precision to me.

Alignment

I have spoken of alignment with source in my book and througout my blog posts before – to the extent of becoming repetitive even.

Recent events in my personal life have renewed my alignment, brought me to new heights of resistance free experiences and in a very short amount of time, I am now seeing the manifestations of my wishes beginning to show themselves. Among them this new 5-star review of my book. The reader entitled it:  Ready for what’s next in the Law of Attraction?

My heart is filled with appreciation for the person who took the time to read the book and write such a splendid review. (Whoever you are, you are a pivotal part in my life’s journey and I thank you.)

Here and Now

Most people experience the “moment” of here and now to be that which they declare as their experience of the present, their reality. However, the true “here and now” is found in the perfect alignment with our non-physical self, where all our creations have already been made. Stepping into this alignment, into the energy flux of well being, where we can feel the creations born from our desires to be real, even if they are not yet manifested in the physical, that is where “here and now” is. Our reality that we call “the present” is  not actually here and now. It can easily be labelled “the past” or the “Over there and Back when”, for it is indeed a different vibrational frequency than the actual “here and now”.