Victim of Circumstance (part 3)

Hello again – how is it going with your personal “I am….” statement? Results may be instant or it may take a while before you will see changes in your outlook, changes in how you feel when you repeat this statement, and changes in how others respond to you. It may also be that there are beliefs and things in the way that keep getting “poked” and stirred up with this statement of intention. That’s normal and only a sign that it’s indeed “working”. These statements will bring energetic changes, especially when the focus is held for half an hour or longer on feeling the way you decided you want to feel from here on out.

So what do we do when say a day starts out resonably well, the practice gets more firm, the intention becomes more habitual, and Bam! – something pops up. It may be as simple as a seeming dip into old thought patterns combined with the associated well known emotional states. When that happens, I’m almost certain it will trigger that intricately ingrained reaction of fighting the contrast away, sometimes by desperately trying to hang on to the new statments – or giving up altogether declaring that these “affirmation things” (I prefer to call them deliberate intentions) are just not your cup of tea. Either way is fine. Both ways will cause you to be sucked back into the old groove that is trying to show up so that you could work through it. Over time, you will begin to recognize these contrasts for what they are. Your response is where the freedom to choose comes in. I suggest to find back to step 1. Embrace whatever it is that is bugging you – acceptance is the key, the beginning of the lowering of resistance. Accept that this pattern has shown up. Then when the relief sets in through acceptance, choose the feeling which you have already determined you want to feel. If you want proof that this really works, I suggest you just don’t give up. This is where the stubbornness I mentioned previously comes in for real! – I add to the acceptance a bit of appreciation that my “I am”- intention has actually had a result. Not the one I thought I’d have, but surely it has brought me on the path of least resistance (get the gist?) to where I need to be so that my intention can become more and more engrained.

I can’t foresee all the potential patterns of previous resistance that could appear. I bet you will find that if they appear on your journey, they are often quite familiar, well trained beliefs. Sometimes however, they are wonderful gifts in form of aha-moments. Epiphanies of the less fluffy kind, that do however bring beautiful clarity as to why you have been experiencing the contrasts the way you did. Anyway – the steps are easy, the process is ongoing, the path is individual and you’re already on it!

When in doubt, step 1 – Acceptance. 

When comfortable there, step 2 – Get clear on how you want to feel instead

When clear, step 3 – Craft your very own “I am …………”  as if it were already so

When stuff pops up that makes you feel bad, go back to step 1,

Then rinse and repeat for as long as it takes until this sequence becomes your new way of reacting to contrast. Toss in the occasional appreciation that there is contrast in the first place and that you have an emotional feedback that tells you when things are “on” or “off” for you and there you have the formula for coming out of any contrast that has been bothering you. With that personal training, you will no doubt leave states of victimhood behind – an experience to be gratful for, as it showed you what you want instead. Not only will you experience less and less feelings of being a victim, you will see more and more circumstances reflect your new chosen feeling. Pay attention to these new manifestations, and remember, the circumstances follow your energy, they are always a reflection.

I wish everyone attempting this good luck, persistence, and the understanding that with your deliberate thoughts combined with the emotional feedback, you will always have a way “out”. You may most definitely not be able to avoid contrast altogether, for that is not what this is for. It’s about knowing how to shift your own energy and experience after you gained the clarity of your preference that was born from the contrast in the first place. It’s always going to be a bit of to and fro …

And remember…… YOU are the creator of your reality!

Victim of Circumstance (part 1)

The focus and overt attention we give to something, be it positive or negative in our experiene, creates an energetic pattern that will bring more of the same into our experience. Cool! – now I have this “thing” in my experience I don’t want. I’ve experienced it over and over and obviously, I’ve complained about it and gotten used to focusing on it, so it shows up and greets me every day anew like that old pal I would love to ditch. Oh, I’ve tried to ditch it – believe me! I’ve tried to run from it, I’ve tried to fight it, I’ve struggled against it and resisted it with all my might, yet here it is again, day after day. The habit of focusing on it has created this seemingly endless pattern. A loop, where I revisit this “thing” and therefore experience it. It seems there’s no escape from it at all. So what’s the hype with positivity ? That stuff surely can’t make that monster I apparently have created (have I?) go away! I can’t just paint a smiley face on this and pretend it’s not there, since it keeps showing up. Perhaps I have been fated to experience this ugly monster day after day, it’s must be just my burden to carry – so my thought patterns. There it is – the ultimate thought that slipped in through the back door: “I’m a victim of circumstance!” – Of course I don’t know this ultimate thought in word form, but I feel its power. I feel it, yes it is true, look around – it’s everywhere, circumstances abound and they victimize me and keep me hostage! – The cycle has found it’s low point, or has it not?

If this scenario sounds remotely familiar, I have perhaps some news for you. First off, you are correct. You are experiencing yourself as a victim of the circumstances in your life. You have proof of that. It feels real. I get it. I can easily acknowledge this and nod. Yes indeed, it is so. However, the query does not end here! “Why is this experience the way it is and repeats itself over and over in variations?” That is a question that will have undoubtedly an answer akin to: “because I believe to be a victim of circumstance”. And there you have it…

Now on to the perhaps rather unconventional part of this scenario. You’ve tried to move on from this state, I’m sure you have. You’ve tried to escape, you’ve tried to meditate perhaps, you’ve tried that darn positive affirmation thing and it failed – You want to simply give up, flop over and let it all be, yet there’s that spark in you that fights again and again. Two things happen here. The fight against this brings more focus to it and therefore elicits more confirmatory experiences and it firms up the very belief you are trying to expunge. The other thing is this – the sense of having exhausted all your fight and all possible actions and the feeling of giving up is actually your source input trying to guide you toward the one thing that will bring you the relief you are seeking. Flop over – let it all be! – that’s the call of source!

Have you tried following that call yet? – If you have, you know where I’m going with this. If not, then I feel it may be time you did. Allowing is a magical thing. Allowing can heal so much. Allow that you have this core belief. (You are not alone, it’s a core belief you share with mass consciousness). Allow that things are as they are. Allow it like a farmer who just lost his crop to bad weather would sigh and accept. Shrug and say “oh well” – just for a moment. Let the relief that follows this acceptance flood through your very being. Let go of the fight, even if it seems counter-intuitive. Let go of the struggle that only creates more focus on the undesirable thing.

Don’t try to run from that, don’t try to immediately shift away, try to fully embrace that thing that caused you to feel victimized. Get me right, it’s not about forgiveness here. It’s about acceptance and nothing more. This is the first step. Give this step enough time to feel what it means to be in a state of acceptance of what is.

 

(Since there is need for time between the first and the following steps, part 2 of “Victim of Circumstance” will follow a bit later – stay tuned!)

On the Subject of Prayer

The heinous events lately here as well as in other parts of the world, and I mean lately in a very loose sort of way, always seem to initiate a cry to pray for…(insert whatever it is we’re supposed to be praying for).  There are even voices that claim to know that the world should stop praying and that we better fix our own problems (with bombs perhaps?). I get that prayer in the traditional sense always seems to come from a place of feeling inferior, overwhelmed maybe, and seeking outside help. That may be so for many still. It surely appears that prayer has kind of fallen out of favor for many. It’s just not a “thing” anymore. This may have to do with many turning away from religion, as prayer is closely associated with a faith. (Funny how literally in every faith there’s prayer somewhere though).

In my belief system, and yes, that’s all it really is, just how I managed to line up my beliefs into a seeming structure of order, prayer is essential; as is meditation. Prayer would be talking, meditation listening – but who am I talking to, who am I listening to? In my belief, I talk and listen to source. Source is the non-physical, greater part from whence a “spark” came to incarnate in my body. That is the connection to the powers that I believe are greater than those of the physical world. Now when a disaster strikes, I may pray harder, with more urgency perhaps – this comes naturally for me, as I feel more and more the connectedness with all other people who are grieving and suffering. Energetically, prayer has a very direct way of affecting everything. The contrast of the disaster creates immediately the improved version, e.g. a peaceful world. Source then becomes that version and people lagging a bit (or a lot) behind, turn their attention to the contrast situation that has brought about the new creation, therefore finding themselves feeling bad, which indicates a state of misalignment. Now add prayer to the mix – yes, prayer will add fuel to the new creation and hence, source always being the giver of what has been asked, ups the ante and sends out the new creation energy pattern with increased intensity.

Usually, as a human being, I’m somewhat in resistance at all times. (Resistance to experiencing source energy unhindered) Sometimes more, sometimes less. That level of resistance exists whether source has upped the ante and sends out massive new energy waves, or not. When source answers the prayers energetically with this increase of energetic intensity, (because prayers really do get answered) I have the same level of resistance with more energy bouncing against that and I feel the effects by feeling pretty lousy. The mind wants to make sense of it and blames the heinous contrast events that gave rise to it all in the first place, which creates further misalignment. It takes us people a while to line up with such immediate large scale new creations, but it would be good to focus on what we want instead and pray that we can align swiftly, rather than ask for more source energy based on the idea that some other-worldly God-figure may swoop down and fix it all for us … well, in a way it’s happening that way, just we (humanity) are the extensions of source here on Earth. We are actually praying to ourselves if that makes any sense at all.

So, yes, always pray, meditate, it’s the communication between you and source. It’s vital for an aligned lifestyle. Do not listen to those who say to stop praying, for prayer is that intimate re-connection with who we really are and to stop that would be counter-intuitive in my opinion. I feel that the contrasting events that give rise to the call for prayer is actually one of the positive aspects, if I may say it that way (no offense intended anywhere). People waking up to prayer is important, for by turning away from religion, they have also turned away from prayer and a (re)turn to prayer is a good thing and should never stop.

Prayer done right, connects with source and will open one’s heart. There may be tears of release flowing, as we reconnect with source in a conscious manner, that is not a sadness, but a sense of relief that one is well under way to find that connection many of us so crave.